I (62F) really need some perspective on this. My son (34M) is married to Amy (33F). She has a daughter from her first marriage (9F), and I’ve always treated both her and Amy as if they were my own family.
I’ve babysat, helped them with bills, and even supported them through a rough patch last year. There’s never been any drama—just genuine love. Now Amy is pregnant with their first baby together, and I was absolutely thrilled.
I’ve been doting on her throughout the pregnancy and making sure she feels supported. When I offered to help with the gender reveal, I did it because I truly thought we were close. That was when Amy said, “Don’t come, it’s for family only.
I don’t want outsiders there.”
Her words cut deeply. I didn’t argue; I just smiled through the hurt and went home. What she didn’t realize was that I had been in the middle of updating my will, planning to leave a six-figure trust to both their new baby and Amy’s daughter to support their futures.
I was actually going to announce it at the gender-reveal party as a surprise. Instead, on the day of the reveal, I sent them an envelope. Amy opened it, expecting money.
Inside was a copy of the will with ‘Consider this void. After all, I’m just an outsider,’ written at the bottom. My son later called to apologize and said he had no idea she’d spoken to me like that.
They want to talk things through, but I haven’t responded yet. Now I’m conflicted. A part of me still wants to be involved in the baby’s life, but I also feel deeply hurt and disrespected.
So tell me—was I being petty, or was I simply protecting myself? Source: brightside.me
